✨ What Is Closure? ✨

(Built from the heart of Shaam-e-Baazgasht — Mumbai Edition and layered with personal reflections)

I didn’t have an answer that night….

I still remember that evening at Shaam-e-Baazgasht, Mumbai edition — the music soft, the audience quieter than usual, and a dear old friend from the audience asking — “Krish, what is closure according to you?”

The room paused, as if everyone had their own unfinished story echoing inside them.

I paused too, smiled, and said, “Interestingly, I don’t have an answer to this right away… but we can talk through it.”

And that’s exactly what we did. The conversation that followed will find its full place in “The Nishant Conundrum”, whenever it’s ready.

But today, as I read the transcript of that night and write this, I’ve learned that closure is not a single moment.

It’s a journey — often long, uneven, and rarely given by another person.

Closure isn’t one door slamming shut; it’s the slow turning of many handles — one memory, one moment, one emotion at a time.

It doesn’t arrive one fine morning over coffee, or appear at a temple, a beach, or in someone’s message.

It comes from within — quietly, deliberately, often painfully.

It begins when you reclaim your life, bit by bit:

the song that once broke you,

the café that felt haunted,

the dream that turned sour,

the birthday that no longer belongs to two.

Every event, every date, every fragment of what-was has to be rewritten in your own handwriting.

That’s how you close the doors — gently.

Not by forgetting, but by re-owning.

At its core, closure is self-protection.

It’s the mind choosing peace over replay.

A calm mind, accepting the truth that “it was, and now it is not,” makes better decisions than one trapped in denial.

Acceptance doesn’t weaken love — it restores dignity to it.

And the most liberating truth of all:

Closure doesn’t come from them — the one who left, or the one who hurt you.

It’s something you craft for yourself, with silence as your chisel and awareness as your light.

Meditation helps — it shows that peace isn’t given, it’s revealed.

Every breath, every pause, loosens another knot.

Conversations help too — especially with someone trained to listen and guide.

We can’t control our emotions, but we can control how we process and act on them.

Emotions rise from spontaneity; wisdom lies in how we respond. That’s where awareness and professional help can hold you steady.

As I told the audience that night:

“Closure is seeking your peace of mind — to protect your sanity, your mental peace.”

It’s not about becoming indifferent; it’s about becoming centered.

When you stop fighting the fact that it was and now it is not, the mind becomes calmer, clearer.

You don’t avoid the fire — you learn to walk through it without burning.

Life won’t stop throwing crises at you.

But awareness — the kind built through therapy, silence, and meditation — helps you meet them with steadiness. It’s not about bypassing pain, it’s about expanding your capacity to hold it. And yes, time helps — not by erasing the story, but by softening its edges.

In the end, closure is self-authored. It doesn’t arrive through confession or apology. It’s something you create — one letter, one decision, one silence at a time.

Closure is what you make of it…

Yours to define,

Yours to seek,

Yours to keep!

Because closure isn’t about forgetting someone…

It’s about remembering yourself!

— Dr. Krish 

Orthodontist | Mindfulness coach | Author 

29th October 2025, 02:17 PM