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September 9, 2026
Published by krrishhealthcare@gmail.com on September 9, 2026
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Why Does Being Bisexual Need So Much Explaining?
(notes from an otherwise fairly ordinary bisexual man during Bi-Visibility Month)     Most mornings, I don’t wake up thinking about being bisexual. I wake up thinking about whether I have enough time for coffee, about my work for the day, my patients, maybe some unfinished blog post, about whether I should go to the gym today or successfully negotiate with myself for another rest day, what to make for lunch…  Sometimes about deadlines, family, friends, bills, groceries, messages I forgot to reply to and, every now and then, someone I am falling in love with. Oh but most importantly feeding my two kittens and cleaning the litter bins!  I’m an orthodontist and in my leisure, I teach yoga, I write poetry, I sing… I can be opinionated, stubborn, affectionate, ambitious, annoyingly particular about certain things and spectacularly absent-minded about others. I’m a cisgender man. And somewhere amongst all these fairly ordinary facts about me… I am bisexual. Well if you ask me if it really matters?  Of course it does… But it isn’t everything. And yet, remarkably often, my bisexuality seems to occupy a perfectly ordinary amount of space inside me… and a considerably larger amount of space in […]
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August 19, 2026
Published by krrishhealthcare@gmail.com on August 19, 2026
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My Tricky Relationship With My Mother
on loving our parents, surviving them, understanding them — and eventually finding them inside ourselves     This morning, after a week-long visit to my place, I saw Mom off on her train back home to Asansol. Yesterday had been her birthday — a quaint, extremely personal celebration that began with puja at Dakshineshwar, followed by a little shopping, a small cake-cutting at home, and dinner with some of her favourite dishes. My friends had been wanting to meet her; some did, while some couldn’t make it owing to their schedules. Some newer friends and acquaintances asked me this week how it felt having Mom stay with me — and today, how I feel now that she’s returning home. And I’ve often said this — “I’ve a tricky relationship with my mother!” I love her. She loves me to the core. I know that. I also know that I cannot imagine living with her under the same roof for more than a few days without eventually wanting to pull my hair out. Both are true. My older friends know it well. For years, I thought the difficult parts of our relationship came from everything that was different between us. Our […]
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August 18, 2026
Published by krrishhealthcare@gmail.com on August 18, 2026
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The Wrong Question
(on men, women, attraction, and discovering that my heart speaks more than one language.)   “So… are you more attracted to men or women?” It’s a question I’ve been asked more times than I can count. Whether from friends, dates, or even strangers who are only just getting to know me…  And every single time, I disappoint them with exactly the same answer – “It’s not that simple.” Most people smile politely, convinced I’m dodging the question. Some want to insist I pick a side. But the truth is… I genuinely don’t know how to answer it. Not because I’m confused. But because I think the question itself is wrong. A few days ago, I found myself having yet another version of this conversation with someone who landed up on my Whatsapp chat window from a group for queer spiritual folks that I am a co-admin of.  He kept insisting – “But are you more attracted to men?” I replied – “It’s not that simple! My attraction towards men and women is different. It is a longer conversation and possibly a new blog😅” “It’s one answer… You need to pick one!” he continued. I kept saying the same thing – […]
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August 14, 2026
Published by krrishhealthcare@gmail.com on August 14, 2026
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The Illusion of Choice 
a conversation on Bisexuality, stereotypes, and privilege and the illusion of choice. “But you’re bisexual… so you can be with girls as well!!! For you it’s pretty easy, I would say… at least you have that option!” — he texted. We were still in the process of getting to know each other after a few days of matching on a dating app. I smiled at that text, not because I agreed. But because I recognised those words. I’ve heard them before from quite a few people — some friends, some strangers, some mere acquaintances. Different conversations, a few different words, but the underlying idea remains the same!  So I replied — “It doesn’t work that simply. 😊” He continued — “Sometimes yes… about being confused and lost.” I paused for a moment. Then wrote — “No. I’m not lost or confused. 😊” He replied — “But I think once you fall for someone, whether it is a girl or a guy, you should stay loyal to that person. Just for the sake of societal pressure and other things, you should not change your decision at the end moment.” And that’s where I realised. We weren’t actually talking about bisexuality anymore. […]
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August 14, 2026
Published by krrishhealthcare@gmail.com on August 14, 2026
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Can We Really Un-love Someone?
On love, letting go, and why moving on doesn’t always require us to stop loving. “Mujhe lagta hai, we can’t unlove someone we’ve deeply loved once.”— Preeti, Musafir Cafe As the scene played out on my TV screen, I paused to make a note… Not because the thought was particularly new to me. Rather, the opposite. I had written almost exactly the same thing more than a year ago. On 5th July 2025, two lines had found their way into my notes: “Can you really un-love someone?”“Not when you loved right!” At the time, it seemed almost self-evident to me. Apparently, it wasn’t. I was still handling remnants of lingering feelings for “N”.  Almost a year later when I shared those lines on my Instagram stories, a friend, Nisha replied almost immediately — “Waah… yes, I can totally unlove someone. Be practical.” I replied — “Then you didn’t love right!” And thus began a rather long conversation — or perhaps, a debate — about love.  She gave me an example I couldn’t dismiss quite so easily: what about someone who genuinely loves a person who later turns out to be abusive? Does the abuser’s behaviour somehow invalidate the love of […]
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August 13, 2026
Published by krrishhealthcare@gmail.com on August 13, 2026
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Old enough to Love the Ordinary
on ageing, growing up, and finding love in the mundane. “Bhalo hoyeche!! But toke aging queer bole dilo re!!! I always thought you were young. Ki shob bolche era!!” I laughed when I read Mona’s texts. She has been a very dear friend, colleague and support system since 2009 and I had just sent her the video of my recent BBC News Bangla interview on queer ageing, and while she was happy about the interview, she apparently had a rather serious objection to one particular part of the premise: Krish & Ageing? The audacity! 😂 So I replied — “Hahaha I’m young, yes… 😁But ageing is an eternal process!” And then I added something that I realised I genuinely meant: “I’ve owned my chronological age by now.” Ageing and being old, after all, aren’t quite the same thing. We’re all ageing. A six-year-old is ageing, and so is a twenty-year-old… and so is someone at sixty. And yes, I’m still young. Mentally, I’m probably still twenty-eight. And vanity compels me to add that I would very much like to believe I can still pass for someone around thirty in a crowd where the room is sufficiently dimly lit… 😉 But […]
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