a conversation on Bisexuality, stereotypes, and privilege and the illusion of choice. “But you’re bisexual… so you can be with girls as well!!! For you it’s pretty easy, I would say… at least you have that option!” — he texted. We were still in the process of getting to know each other after a few days of matching on a dating app. I smiled at that text, not because I agreed. But because I recognised those words. I’ve heard them before from quite a few people — some friends, some strangers, some mere acquaintances. Different conversations, a few different words, but the underlying idea remains the same!  So I replied — “It doesn’t work that simply. 😊” He continued — “Sometimes yes… about being confused and lost.” I paused for a moment. Then wrote — “No. I’m not lost or confused. 😊” He replied — “But I think once you fall for someone, whether it is a girl or a guy, you should stay loyal to that person. Just for the sake of societal pressure and other things, you should not change your decision at the end moment.” And that’s where I realised. We weren’t actually talking about bisexuality anymore. […]

On love, letting go, and why moving on doesn’t always require us to stop loving. “Mujhe lagta hai, we can’t unlove someone we’ve deeply loved once.”— Preeti, Musafir Cafe As the scene played out on my TV screen, I paused to make a note… Not because the thought was particularly new to me. Rather, the opposite. I had written almost exactly the same thing more than a year ago. On 5th July 2025, two lines had found their way into my notes: “Can you really un-love someone?”“Not when you loved right!” At the time, it seemed almost self-evident to me. Apparently, it wasn’t. I was still handling remnants of lingering feelings for “N”.  Almost a year later when I shared those lines on my Instagram stories, a friend, Nisha replied almost immediately — “Waah… yes, I can totally unlove someone. Be practical.” I replied — “Then you didn’t love right!” And thus began a rather long conversation — or perhaps, a debate — about love.  She gave me an example I couldn’t dismiss quite so easily: what about someone who genuinely loves a person who later turns out to be abusive? Does the abuser’s behaviour somehow invalidate the love of […]